The act of vigil is to stay in a quiet place and wait.
It is often associated with prayer and acts of sacred presencing.
An end-of-life vigil is the act of being with another as they journey towards death. Family and significant others gather by the bedside of a dying person in the weeks, days, or hours prior to the death event.
With our team at Picaluna, we can also enable for families to host after-death vigils extending time with your loved one for intimate home viewing, care-taking and private rituals.
If your loved one dies at home, our end of life doula’s can provide cooling plates to maintain care and integrity. NSW Health regulations can allow a person to stay home after death for up to 5 days.
Even if your loved one dies elsewhere, such as in a hospital or nursing home, Picaluna can arrange to bring them home for the family to host a time of vigil before the ceremony. This could be just for the day of ceremony, a few days before, or even for the full duration of their time in care.
During the time of vigil, a number of lovely activities can be considered to create a richly creative and nurturing experience for families. These can include:
bringing the coffin home to be painted or decorated
making a homemade shroud/silk screen burial cloth
making your own flower arrangements
cooking up family meals and preparing the catering for the celebration
sharing in bespoke rites, prayers and song
"Hi Sarah. You made our what started off being very traumatic time become a time of something of extreme love and sharing. You took the bull by the horns from the moment you first walked into our turned upside down, chaotic, grieving lives, you were able to guide us into an orderly and somewhat absolute peaceful path. You have a wonderful gift Sarah and according to everyone I spoke at the service a very special way of delivering and sharing it with grieving souls. It was even suggested to me by several people that it was the best service that they had ever attended. Thank you again with deep gratitude and a truck load of love."